Choosing my own path

I am happy that the holidays are now over. Yule was the best, celebrating with my best friends and two of my cousins. We all had a blast.
Christmas was a whole different kettle of fish. I was actually told by my mother not to show up to the house on Christmas day because of my sister. My parents had my fathers side of the family over on Christmas eve. I was there of course, I wanted to see everyone. My sister stayed in the basement the whole time. every once and a while I would hear her take a fit from her room down there. so when my mom took me aside, giving me a hug in the process, she whispered into my ear, "don't bother coming her tomorrow." I was crushed. as soon as i left my parents place i just balled.
Now i am going to do some big changes in my life. First and foremost is trying to relieve myself of some stress in my life. Ever since this big blow up with my sister and family, i have lost about 40-50 pounds, just due to stress. One of my cousins that i don't see too often kept on commenting on how much weight i lost and was asking me what kind of diet i was on. I flat out told him its called the stress diet. I know that there is stress in every day life and things will be stressful once i become a mommy.. its common sense. Now though i want to take control of my life, choose my own path, and not care what anyone thinks. So until my family comes to their senses, i will be not talking to them all that often. I know it sounds bad, but I know being stressed and pregnant is not a good combination.
This evening, I was talking to a friend that i have known now for almost 20 years. I recently told her my plans of becoming a mom. I never expected the reaction that i got. she basically called me stupid, but of course not in those words. It was "you know i was a single mom and all the hardships and struggling I went though. why would you want to do that..." and it went on and on and on. It was like a sharp blow to the face. I just wanted to tell her, yes i know, but that was ten years ago. you were younger and he was a surprise. you were a partier and it put a damper on your social life. it just felt like everyone was trying to crush my dreams lately. but i know that is not true.
Azaera, thank you. You have helped me out a lot today like always. You always know what to say to make me feel better about myself and always reminding me it is my life, no one elses. I get to choose what i do with it. I can never have asked for a better best friend. You are the best!

Yule came early today

well today was looking like a normal day. Ok not too normal. i picked up my mom to do a little yule shopping, and on the way to the city the rear passenger tire blew up. it was a bit scary but i was able to pull my car over to the side of the road with little to no problem. The only big problem was it was -27 plus the windchill factor so it must have been -5000 out. and there i am with no gloves, jacking up my car, then trying to figure out how to get the spare tire from under the car (new car and i have never changed a tire on him yet.) i was half way done getting the tire from under the car and completely frozen when a semi driver pulled over and lent a grateful hand. He had the tire changed under five minutes. My mom and myself said our heartfelt thank yous to the man and went on our way to get a new tire for my car.
To make a long story short (i know its too late for that now lol) it took 7 hours for them to get my tire changed since its "change over to your winter tire" season. My cousin lent me her car in the meantime so we were able to continue to fight the crazy mobs in the mall to shop.
The best present today that i received was in the mail when i got home. I got a letter from my doctors office that they have contacted the clinic and they should be calling or mailing me with my appointment time and date. Luckily no one was near the mail box's when i got it because i squealed pretty loud with delight. I have never been so excited for a stranger to call me.

The best medicine

Today I was really depressed thanks to my mom calling me and telling me that I had to buy my sister a christmas present because otherwise she would be depressed. after that and her trying to tell me how to live my life i was felling really down. The people i work with heard my argument with my mom on the phone so they were trying to cheer me up today.
All it took to put a smile on my face was the belly laughter of a little monster. Thank you Skyler for making my day

Don't know...

Well its about that time of the year where everyone goes and celebrates yule/Christmas with their family. I don't know what I'm going to do this year though. my life has not been too clear for a while now.
since my birthday in April, i had what would you call it had a fallout with my family. my sister had a blow up with me and she threatened to kill me. My parents had taken my sisters side in almost everything. it has been real rough time for me...my patents only talking to me when they want something and basically shunning me. if it has not been for my best friends, i think i would have lost my mind a while ago.
so this year for all the holiday fun, i don't know what i am going to do. its really depressing that i can not even go to my parents place without my sister throwing a huge hissy fit and run to her room in the basement and yell until i leave there. so most of the time i don't feel like i am wanted and its making me more depressed every day.
my cousins say i can go over to their places and celebrate with their family, but its just not the same.
i think that is why i really want to start a family real soon. i want to love someone unconditionally and hopefully be loved in return.
i hope everyone will have a great holidays, and try not to get too stressed out over the shopping season.

the late night blogger

Well Samhain was the best. it is my favorite holiday of them all it always has been. being out with my friends, sharing a meal with them and the ones that have passed on was very peaceful, cold but nice.

I Am blogging so late at night because lucky me i get to work the overnight shift. i already worked from 7am to 11am. I then celebrated Samhain with my best friends. Now I'm working 11pm to 7am. Oh and the lucky part, i get to come back at 4pm and work till 10pm...lucky me lol.

Ok now its almost 5am and i feel like a walking zombie. i sware it was just as busy as a normal day shift minus the extra cook. why do i get talked into these things. i know i would have gone crazy if i did not bring my laptop to work, at least i can listen to my music. My back hurts, my stomach is turning I'm so sleepy.... after a night like tonight i think i can handle a baby with one hand tied behind my back. at least its only one person i have to pay attention to, not a restaurant full of people lol.

I still have not heard anything from my doctor or that clinic. I know I just went at the beginning of the month, but I'm an impatient person by nature lol, and waiting is not one of my virtues.
Well i hope everyone is well and had a wonderful Samhain/Halloween.

Yay for friday

Well I must say that today went off without a hitch. It was a most fantastic Friday. He was napping when i got there. As soon as he woke up he got his bottle and lunch then we were off hehe. Our first stop was to my work so i can pick up my check. I walk in there with sky and all the girls i work with are "OHHH he's so CUTE!!" even the one guy i cook with all the time was all google eyed over the little guy. That right there, pushed me over the top wanting a baby. I want people calling my baby cute. and i can be the one going "Yup i made him/her. he/she is the best!"
We went then to pick up my cousin, that just lives outside the city, so we could go shopping. her mom was there and when she saw that i had sky with me, she went into her room and got the outfit that she bought for him when she went to the states over the weekend. She loves to buy him things. You see Chuck and her daughter were the best of friends, and so part of her family. so when my auntie sees something for sky, she always picks it up.
i was off handed telling my auntie that i wanted a baby soon. So she asked me on how i was going to do this. Well now i feel like i had to tell her, but did not know what she was going to say. Me being extremely nervous told her about the doctors appointment that i went to (I already told her about the nonsense he did to me during the appointment but not the reason i went there). She said that was cool. It is real nice to have an auntie that is real supportive like that. I know for a fact that she would be the only one. I honestly believe that my other relatives would disown me or something... its pretty sad.
Now with my cousin with me, we went to the mall and did a little shopping, which was fun. Sky picked out some cute toys and when we got to the checkout, i actually had to pry one out of his hand so i could pay for it, so cute lol.
We then walked around the mall for a bit, getting some other stuff, then it was time to go home and put him for a nap. Well, Sky had plans of his own, and after only half an hour of sleep, well it was time to get up and play. So i tried to do what mommy told me to do. Play with him until he gets tired. Well that did not work lol. he was laughing and cuddling with me up to the time Mommy and Daddy got home.
I know not every day would be like this, all smiles and snuggles, with one of my own, but i don't care. I will gladly take the good with the bad. Its what makes you a mommy.

The true test

Well tomorrow i will have the true test. It will be Sky and myself all day alone tomorrow. All day with the little one, having to remember the schedule that he is on, what to feed him, when to put him for a nap, bottles...
I know though its going to be more tough on mommy and daddy because they have never been away from him for so long. And truth be told, i have never been around a little one for that long knowing that i am in charge...well he's in charge, i bow to his ever whim lol.
I will not lie, i am a little nervous. its not because he is special needs... its just because he is so small.
Tomorrow though i got a little bit of a game plan... one part of it is going shopping with him (i promised him this last week) so he can go and pick out his birthday present for next month. i got a bit of an idea of what i want to get him but i want to see his response to it.
All i know that i am happy and blessed that my best friends trust me with their most precious thing in the world.